ok..I need alittle help.. I used these commands..
instanceTitle=Play Track
instanceCmd=action="pause";dbus-send --print-reply --dest=com.nokia.mafw.renderer.Mafw-Gst-Renderer-Plugin.gstrenderer /com/nokia/mafw/renderer/gstrenderer com.nokia.mafw.renderer.get_status > /home/user/.media;x=`sed -n '4p' /home/user/.media | cut -d " " -f 5`;if [ $QBW_EXEC_REASON = QBW_DBUS_MONITOR ];then case $x in 1) exit 1;;*) exit 0;esac;elif [ $QBW_EXEC_REASON = QBW_STARTUP_UPDATE ];then exit 0;fi;case $x in 0) dbus-send --dest=com.nokia.mafw.renderer.Mafw-Gst-Renderer-Plugin.gstrenderer /com/nokia/mafw/renderer/gstrenderer com.nokia.mafw.renderer.play;exit 1;;1) dbus-send --dest=com.nokia.mafw.renderer.Mafw-Gst-Renderer-Plugin.gstrenderer /com/nokia/mafw/renderer/gstrenderer com.nokia.mafw.renderer.$action;exit 0;;2) dbus-send --dest=com.nokia.mafw.renderer.Mafw-Gst-Renderer-Plugin.gstrenderer /com/nokia/mafw/renderer/gstrenderer com.nokia.mafw.renderer.resume;exit 1;esac;

and now have the the large buttons for the standard media player.. but I can't figure out where or how to add the dbus commands to have the buttons work for someplayer so if someone could plz post what the command should look like I would appreciate it..thank you